It's almost reasonable to say that lying is instinctive because even young children lie without realizing it. No matter how common it is to lie, it is still considered impolite and bad behavior.
Being lied to can be frustrating and it often breaks the bond of trust between two people, causing problems in the relationship. Knowing the reasons why people lie, however, can shed some light on the problem and help us understand the people who lie. Self-Defense Many people lie because they want to protect themselves from an unpleasant situation or conflict. Think of young children who lie; they lie to make sure that they don't get into trouble.
Children lie to avoid unpleasant consequences or punishment. Adults do the same. Many people lie because they know they've done something that will anger the other person. A woman might lie about the cost of the shoes she purchased and a man might lie about which buddy he was going to hang out with. These lies are strictly to escape punishment or to avoid a fight. The person may not have done anything wrong, but would prefer not to have to justify, explain or face an irate spouse.
To Spare Feelings. To Protect Feelings While some people who lie want to protect the feelings of others and spare someone else pain or hurt, many people lie to protect their own feelings, self-esteem, self-confidence, or other personal emotion. A woman who says, "I didn't want that job anyway," when she really did, is lying to protect herself. A child who yells out, "I hate you! To Keep a Secret When thinking of lies that are concocted to keep a secret, one must only think of birthdays and Christmas.
Plenty of people lie about where they went or what they bought, with the good intention of maintaining an aspect of surprise. Most of the time, the lies are obvious. When the truth comes out and the teen receives a nice gift for a special occasion, the lie is forgiven and forgotten. Many people want to present a good image, often for work-related reasons.
Think of a job interview where a person might dress well and attempt to impress the interviewer in order to land the job. People who lie for image reasons often do so because they want to gloss over a blemish in their work history or avoid providing the real reason for termination of employment from a previous job.
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The results of their research were published in the American Journal of Forensic Psychiatry. A few of the potential red flags the researchers identified that might indicate that people are deceptive include:.
Lead researcher R. Edward Geiselman suggests that while detecting deception is never easy, quality training can improve a person's ability to detect lies:. Quick, inadequate training sessions lead people to over-analyze and to do worse than if they go with their gut reactions. If you suspect that someone might not be telling the truth, there are a few strategies you can use that might help distinguish fact from fiction. While body language cues can sometimes hint at deception, research suggests that many expected behaviors are not always associated with lying.
Researcher Howard Ehrlichman, a psychologist who has been studying eye movements since the s, has found that eye movements do not signify lying at all. In fact, he suggests that shifting eyes mean that a person is thinking, or more precisely, that he or she is accessing their long-term memory.
Other studies have shown that while individual signals and behaviors are useful indicators of deception, some of the ones most often linked to lying such as eye movements are among the worst predictors. One meta-analysis found that while people do often rely on valid cues for detecting lies, the problem might lie with the weakness of these cues as deception indicators in the first place. Some of the most accurate deception cues that people do pay attention to include:.
The lesson here is that while body language may be helpful, it is important to pay attention to the right signals. However, some experts suggest that relying too heavily on certain signals may impair the ability to detect lies. Lie detection can be seen as a passive process. Some research has suggested that asking people to report their stories in reverse order rather than chronological order can increase the accuracy of lie detection.
Verbal and non-verbal cues that distinguish between lying and truth-telling may become more apparent as cognitive load increases. Lying is more mentally taxing than telling the truth. If you add even more cognitive complexity, behavioral cues may become more apparent. Not only is telling a lie more cognitively demanding, but liars typically exert much more mental energy toward monitoring their behaviors and evaluating the responses of others. They are concerned with their credibility and ensuring that other people believe their stories.
All this takes a considerable amount of effort, so if you throw in a difficult task like relating their story in reverse order , cracks in the story and other behavioral indicators might become easier to spot. In one study, 80 mock suspects either told the truth or lied about a staged event. Some of the individuals were asked to report their stories in reverse order while others simply told their stories in chronological order.
The researchers found that the reverse order interviews revealed more behavioral clues to deception. Are children poor liars? Do you think you can easily detect their lies? Developmental researcher Kang Lee studies what happens physiologically to children when they lie. They do it a lot, starting as young as two years old, and they're actually really good at it. Lee explains why we should celebrate when kids start to lie and presents new lie-detection technology that could someday reveal our hidden emotions.
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